Tuesday, November 26, 2013
In between
Have you ever struggle to leave in the present from where you are now and moving towards the direction from where you want to be? Often, I get really impatient. And as the days flew, I woke up someday thinking, what can I do better? What more can I do? After my dad went through the life and death surgery, it began to dawn on me even more that time is precious. The clock ticks and next thing you know, its Friday. And then another Monday starts. I have limited my time for leisure. My brain is ticking, thinking. Directions, next thing to do, reflection of the day, the list goes. These created tension. Not at all the life I want to lead nor enjoy. I couldn't surrender my day. As Joyce Meyer always emphasize - Enjoy where you are to where you are going. It definitely not easy as I need to unlearn the current vicious cycle of doing to keep still with God with a sense of discernment. I am not sure I am on the right path yet but I do begin to become more positive , to spend my time more fruitfully and not become too emotional or dwelling on negative stuff. Its alot more I describe like fighting. I fight to resist those thoughts and try to regain the joy. I also go into prayers and gratitude more. I try to end the day reflection - what blessings I received each day. Blessing in tiny things. Simply,someone give you a praise, or come over for a casual chat. An offer of tea or piece of chocolate. A smile from someone on the street. A sale person that serves you pleasantly. An encouragement from sermons I listen online. A bible scripture that brings some sprinkle of joy. Provision for the family. I still have a habit of controlling, which I guess it results from the Lack in the past. So I hope to trust God more and let go what I have to, got to, and others' have to, got to. And I should learn to love myself more too. So get over to Robbie Leonard site and hear his thoughts on http://robbieleonard.com/ on his own version of the in between. Love
Wednesday, June 26, 2013
Sharing inspiration
I'll like to share the following post from Yvonne Foong which she has posted it in her facebook post.
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller.
I read these words of Helen Keller several years ago, but it never sounded as profound as when I read them again today. Finally, I can fully relate with Helen Keller, by my own real life experiences, and not just by the fact that I am deaf and half blind myself.
W...hen I became completely deaf eight years ago in 2005, I was set for a major test to see if my heart could grow further or otherwise. I had to accept my sudden deafness, make peace with my condition, adapt to a life of silence, develop new self-esteem in being a hearing impaired individual, stop dwelling on what-it-could-have-been and focus on what I can become, forgive and empathize with those who do not understand my physical condition, have patience to educate people, learn to perceive situations, people, movies, songs and the environemt using my other senses, continue to cultivate a heart of loving kindness despite my difficulties, and maintain an open heart no matter what oppositions I face.
I am happy to say that I have passed the test. Today, my heart is perceptive. I can pick up information without first hearing or reading them. People can feel my heart’s essence – which is also reflected in my aura - just by reading my words, hearing my speeches or being in my presence. I can be of comfort to others simply by being present. Deafness also helped me in cultivating a heart of stillness. By cultivating a still and open heart, I touch the hearts of people by our first meeting even if they do not know anything about me. They can sense that I am different.
Would I trade this heart cultivation for the ability to physically hear again?
Likely not.
Challenges and crisis such as a sudden permanent disability are your opportunities for growth. You can either rise or descend. It’s your choice.
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller.
I read these words of Helen Keller several years ago, but it never sounded as profound as when I read them again today. Finally, I can fully relate with Helen Keller, by my own real life experiences, and not just by the fact that I am deaf and half blind myself.
W...hen I became completely deaf eight years ago in 2005, I was set for a major test to see if my heart could grow further or otherwise. I had to accept my sudden deafness, make peace with my condition, adapt to a life of silence, develop new self-esteem in being a hearing impaired individual, stop dwelling on what-it-could-have-been and focus on what I can become, forgive and empathize with those who do not understand my physical condition, have patience to educate people, learn to perceive situations, people, movies, songs and the environemt using my other senses, continue to cultivate a heart of loving kindness despite my difficulties, and maintain an open heart no matter what oppositions I face.
I am happy to say that I have passed the test. Today, my heart is perceptive. I can pick up information without first hearing or reading them. People can feel my heart’s essence – which is also reflected in my aura - just by reading my words, hearing my speeches or being in my presence. I can be of comfort to others simply by being present. Deafness also helped me in cultivating a heart of stillness. By cultivating a still and open heart, I touch the hearts of people by our first meeting even if they do not know anything about me. They can sense that I am different.
Would I trade this heart cultivation for the ability to physically hear again?
Likely not.
Challenges and crisis such as a sudden permanent disability are your opportunities for growth. You can either rise or descend. It’s your choice.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Healing the inner child - it is more than just nurturing
In fact Inner Child therapy, encompasses more than that. There is not a lot of organizations in-country that child abuse victims can reach out to. When I do a search, in US, Penny Parks offer resolution through inner child therapy http://www.ppfoundation.org/.
This includes whole lot of practitioners approach to help the victims walked through the suppressed emotions and pain and hurt of the wounded inner child and getting through healing process. Alot of people usually advise to forgive and forget and even in christianity, to use the scripture as to not dwell on the past.Which is on the contrary not helpful to the victims. Therapy include walking through and reliving painful memories and facing it and letting the hidden emotions that has been hidden unconsciously to emerge. And often require a practitioner or therapist to work with the victim if the victim is unable or not mentally able to do so. Shame and toxic guilt , feeling of engulfment and low grade depression, extreme to nothing at all thoughts and feeling being overwhelmed, losing her true identity are part of the symptons affecting the victim in adult years. Neglect from parents to help the children. etc. even when children ask for help. The victims grow up to be an adult child.
This is an interesting finding and not a lot of books are dedicated to addressing this subject of inner child therapy and I hope to shade some light on the process.
We also need to allow the victim the channel to express the anguish, and hurt and know that the blame should be on the aggressor , and not the victim herself. Often than not, the victim carried a sense of toxic shame and guilt in his/life that he/she is the person who allow the situation to happen which in actual fact, the child is defenceless, vulnerable and helpless.
This is a good extract from a website:
Inner Child Healing = a path to freedom, serenity, and empowerment - an index of web pages
"It is through healing our inner child, our inner children, by grieving the wounds that we suffered, that we can change our behavior patterns and clear our emotional process. We can release the grief with its pent-up rage, shame, terror, and pain from those feeling places which exist within us."
"Because of our broken hearts, our emotional wounds, and our scrambled minds, our subconscious programming, what the disease of Codependence causes us to do is abandon ourselves. It causes the abandonment of self, the abandonment of our own inner child - and that inner child is the gateway to our channel to the Higher Self.
"We need to rescue and nurture and Love our inner children
"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."
This includes whole lot of practitioners approach to help the victims walked through the suppressed emotions and pain and hurt of the wounded inner child and getting through healing process. Alot of people usually advise to forgive and forget and even in christianity, to use the scripture as to not dwell on the past.Which is on the contrary not helpful to the victims. Therapy include walking through and reliving painful memories and facing it and letting the hidden emotions that has been hidden unconsciously to emerge. And often require a practitioner or therapist to work with the victim if the victim is unable or not mentally able to do so. Shame and toxic guilt , feeling of engulfment and low grade depression, extreme to nothing at all thoughts and feeling being overwhelmed, losing her true identity are part of the symptons affecting the victim in adult years. Neglect from parents to help the children. etc. even when children ask for help. The victims grow up to be an adult child.
This is an interesting finding and not a lot of books are dedicated to addressing this subject of inner child therapy and I hope to shade some light on the process.
We also need to allow the victim the channel to express the anguish, and hurt and know that the blame should be on the aggressor , and not the victim herself. Often than not, the victim carried a sense of toxic shame and guilt in his/life that he/she is the person who allow the situation to happen which in actual fact, the child is defenceless, vulnerable and helpless.
This is a good extract from a website:
Inner Child Healing = a path to freedom, serenity, and empowerment - an index of web pages
"It is through healing our inner child, our inner children, by grieving the wounds that we suffered, that we can change our behavior patterns and clear our emotional process. We can release the grief with its pent-up rage, shame, terror, and pain from those feeling places which exist within us."
"Because of our broken hearts, our emotional wounds, and our scrambled minds, our subconscious programming, what the disease of Codependence causes us to do is abandon ourselves. It causes the abandonment of self, the abandonment of our own inner child - and that inner child is the gateway to our channel to the Higher Self.
"We need to rescue and nurture and Love our inner children
"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
